After working in the retail adult industry for years now, there is always a set of frequently asked questions I get asked on a regular basis. One of the most being asked is, “How do you work here?” I laugh to myself when people ask me that. I’ve always treated this profession like any other. The items we sell in store are just products. It can be intimidating to some, but I find it rather interesting. Keeping an open mind and being non-judgmental is key to working in this industry. Every day is different. Everyone is different. In this industry, you get a wide variety of customers, all which have different wants and needs.
The best part about working in retail is helping customers find exactly what they’re looking for.
In regards to other questions I get asked quite often, this list consist of the following:
1. I’m trying to introduce my significant other to sex toys. What do you recommend?
2. I’m new to anal sex and I’m scared it’s going to hurt. Is there anything you have to help with the discomfort?
3. What is the best toy on the market?
4. You have such a wide variety of lubes. Aren’t they all the same?
5. I’ve never owned a toy before, how do I know what’s right for me?
There are definitely a bunch more, but these are the questions people ask me the most. Here are my answers to the questions I get asked so often:
I’m trying to introduce my significant other to sex toys. What do you recommend?
I love when I hear this question. Helping first timers with sex toys is awesome because you’re not only finding something pleasurable for them, you’re creating an experience. My recommendations are usually toys that are not too invasive. Such items like the Screaming O OWow! vibrating C-ring, Shane’s World sparkle bullet or the 7 function Classic Chic basic vibe. None of them are phallic so they don’t tend to turn people off who might be intimidated by sex toys.
I’m new to anal sex and I’m scared it’s going to hurt. Is there anything you have that will numb my bum?
While numbing your bum isn’t the safest thing for you to do when trying anal sex or anal play, a lot of people are under the misconception that it’s okay. It’s most definitely not. Think of it like when you go to the dentist for dental work, and you leave with your mouth completely numb. Your dentist tells you to be careful and wait for the numbness to wear off before you eat because you can hurt yourself. Well, the same thing goes for your bum, too. There are numbing products on the market that contain benzocaine or lidocaine, but I always recommend a lube that has an anal relaxer in it such as jojoba which is a natural relaxant. Pjur Back Door Anal Silicone Lubricant is a great lube that contains jojoba. Relaxed sphincter muscle=less discomfort and more pleasurable anal sex.
What is the best toy on the market?
That question is rather ambiguous. It all depends on what the toy is going to be used for. You have to gather information based on their wants to figure out what direction you’re going to steer them in regarding toys, or anything for that matter. I definitely have top sellers and favorites in every category of sex toys and lubes. Recommendations are highly sought after, I mean who doesn’t want a first-hand review or opinion when buying anything in life? A good majority of people look up reviews for items before purchasing them. Why not get a review in person before you buy? The We-Vibe Sync is by far my favorite couples toy and The Rabbit Company Pocket Rabbit is my favorite clitoral stimulator at the moment.
You have such a wide variety of lubes. Aren’t they all the same?
Nope. All lubes are not created equal (insert smirk emoji here). There are 3 main types of lubes. Water-based, Silicone-based and hybrid-based. Then there are different brands, and with different brands comes different formulas and viscosities. Water-based is by far the most popular because it can be used with all sex toys and doesn’t stain! The only downside to water-based lube is that it tends to dry up quickly since the main ingredient is water. It’s not recommended for shower use because the water will just wash it away. Silicone however, does the complete opposite. Silicone will last until you’re done, 99% of the time. The great thing about silicone lube is you rarely, if ever, need to re-apply and you can use it in the shower (BEWARE; if you get silicone lube on the shower floor, IT WILL BE SLIPPERY!). It’s also hypoallergenic. The downside? Silicone lube is not compatible with very many sex toys. Hybrid lubes are the best of both lube worlds. It’s safe to use hybrid lubes on all toys and you don’t need to reapply as often as you would with a water-based lube. There is a tiny bit of silicone in all hybrid lubes that give it that silky, non-sticky feel, but still safe for sheets and toys.
I’ve never owned a toy before. How do I know what’s right for me?
Now this goes back to gathering information from the customer and asking what makes them tick, so to speak. There is a way to get information without being too invasive. It pretty much comes down to the type of stimulation you prefer; Clitoral, penetration or both. Once the stimulation factor has been established, I would then direct them to the proper toy section and find what is best suited for them based on the features and functionality they’re looking for. i.e.- Powerful vibrations, waterproof, whisper quiet, etc. We carry such a wide variety of toys, 99% of the time the customer is pleased with the toy they have selected. It’s all about active listening when it comes to finding what is right for that specific customer. Nobody wants to go home disappointed.